Hmmm...

Sounds like you really care for your close friends. Sorry to hear that you fear you may lose some good ones. Maybe it doesn't have to come to that...

Have you been very direct with them? Do they indeed recognize how hurt you are? Some people put on a good face no matter what. Are you like that?

I guess making sure they know you're hurt would be the first thing. If they are able to at the very least apologize, maybe you won't have to go to any extremes.

I do hope this helps.