Hi and welcome I too have kids with adhd and other dx's. I'm not sure what ASD, SPD are though, and GF? Are you ok with how the school is handling him? 9 is so young, it's so hard to watch them struggle with this stuff. When my son was around 10 or 11 and constantly pulled out of class, it was really bad for his self-esteem. I read a lot of books back then that sort of helped like Lost at School & Learned Optimism.

I finally had to home school, and then tried a therapeutic boarding school... things went very downhill. He's now 17, what seems to help the most is keeping the house calm as possible, and when things are tidy he's calmer too, he now has straight A's and doing independant study.

Any activities you guys could do? Will he do any sports or swimming maybe?