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it was more the smart comment he made...... for he knows my wounds and hurts (heck he created this particular one) and therefore he should not have said what he did in the first place - that is what upset me the most.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Ah! That needs more righteous indignation rather than straight anger. I had a boss who humiliated me publicly when I was trying to help him! I figured out a "speech" to give if he ever did it again, about how I was working hard and doing well at correcting my faults and I would not tolerate pot shots at me. If he ever did it again, ___________ (whatever the promise is -- in the work case, I would quit). But be clear that his behavior is not going to be tolerated in the future. Either that, or shrug. It's not the first or last time there will be unpleasant comments about your behavior but they don't have any bearing on the wonderful work you are doing with yourself. Translate it into a comment like, "Your mother wears combat boots" which you don't care about -- sometimes I picture the adults in the Charlie Brown TV shows with their "wah, wah wah wah wah" noise It's just nonsense, background noise to your actual, wonderful, worthwhile struggle.