So just a back drop my husband and I have been married for almost 4 years, no kids yet. Back in the beginning of Dec. we got in a pretty heated argument over something very stupid. After the fight he moved all his stuff to the basement and moved all "his" money to a new bank and got a separate bank account and threw the divorce word at me. on Jan 8th he decided that he wasnt going to go back to work and that he not wants to get long term disability for his depression (he is 30). And he keeps telling me that I if i think he is going back to work i am crazy. I am a hairstlyist and own my own salon. I cannot afford our home bills on my own. I am now scared we are going to loose everything I have told him this and his response is well hopefully i will get my disability soon. He sits at home all day and plays Xbox...I come work from 9am to 8pm now that he is not working and when i get home i am expected to cook and clean! Also, he cashed in his 401K, took all the money out of our vacation fund, and now he is telling me he is broke and constantly asking me for money. Needless to say he has a spending prob. since he has been out of work he has purchased an apple tv, new laptop, went skydiving, accessories for his motorcycle etc. I also found weed in the house and a hidden spy camera that was used on me!! Also, his laptop and phone are now password protected, his gets text messages in the middle of the night from a guy named Michael and then denys it. He has now used Nair on his entire body....I feel like his is not the same person I married and all of this is ruining our marriage...and I truly feel he thinks that there is nothing wrong and I will continue to sit and just let it happen. I just feel like he is hiding soo much and I dont know what to do.