On your previous post I know one of the people there suffered from marital abuse, and they gave you sound advice to get out of there.

I've been in a relationship with a manipulator, who also didn't work after being together a while. The screaming, throwing, tantrums, sulking, pushing me away while at the same time making me feel like it was my fault for not being lovable enough was bad enough, but when he pinned me to the wall by my throat and tried to strangle me was when I got out. This was followed by months of abusive texts, phone calls, emails and turning up outside my flat.

So here you are, someone who's been in a similar situation as yours is telling you that this man is no good as he is. Perhaps he will get help, but my advice would be to get out while he sorts himself out. You being with him is being his enabler to behave this way. Strange as it sounds, but by sticking with him, giving in to his demands of money, sex and dinner/cleaning is actually enabling him to carry on.

Whatever the reason he is like this is about him, not you. You've not done anything wrong, quite the opposite, trying to save your marriage. But he HAS to help himself, and he sounds to me that he will just not do this. He has no incentive to do this either at the moment as you give him everything. Personally speaking, I do not think this man loves you, and if he does, its not a healthy love and your love for him may just simply not be enough. Am sorry.

A man who loves you treats you with respect, kindness and makes you feel safe.

Good luck.