Ahh, I remember when I had to give up control, it was not too long ago. I have had two failed marriages that made me face the fact that I had to give up control, not easy for a woman either. I found out that you cannot control life, love or other human beings. What will be will be. The boss upstairs has our life planned out the moment we are conceived. Once we know and beleive this life is easier. You have to trust in yourself also that what you don't get done today will be here tomorrow, that's just life. you have to trust in your wife also that she can and will help you if only you let her. Really let her in to everything, your fears, your feelings of love for her, the things you like and don't like. Open your heart to everyone, only then will you find the peace that you need. Men are hardwired to be "Gods", so to speak, they think they must "fix and control" everything that is in their life and the lives of loved ones. This is not true. It fact it has been the short commings of many great men in History. Deal with your fears and shortcommings one at a time, it may take time, but the outcome is more than worth it. Good Luck