Blue maybe the judge coming down hard on the pot use isn't exactly such a bad idea right now. Not even talking about pot being risky, I don't care about that at all, I don't have much opinion on that. I'm talking about the fact that he has serious substance abuse issues and it might not be a bad thing for him to learn to rely on less substances for coping. The thing with your son tho, it doesn't seem like being easy on him is always in his best interest and he seems to either not care too much or take it very seriously. I am sure he knows what he is expected to do like return the p.o.'s calls.

I agree fully with you on benzos, riskier than pot haha no really heck yes!!!!

I wish there was somewhere he could go for teens with issues where he could learn other tools for coping with life, careing about life, and wanting more for himself. Not sure if there is something like that he would be interested in going. The biggest battle is getting to the point of wanting it. I know he went to that rehab but maybe that was not long enough. 30 days is not very long to solidify any type of changes. People have a hard time sticking to a diet for that long nevermind the kind of challenges he is facing.

The judicial system is so half assed... they really don't think beyond punishment. Now nothing wrong with consequences but is that it? That might work for some people but for many MANY people ... they need so much more. Especially our youth, it almost feels like screaming "hey, I am sinking here and I beed some real help". This system is not working at all for our society.

It is a crisis and they are not doing anything about it.

I just hope your son starts to want something different soon. When I was a teen and into drugs and my less was a total chaotic mess, I honestly did not care at all. I cared nothing about myself or my life. I needed a heck of a lot more than the judicial system offers. I didn't get what I needed either, eventually I changed direction. And I hope he will too , he is lucky to have a mom that cares so much.