Hey Blue,
I'm chiming in late, as usual. My job is so time consuming!
It sounds like there are some positives that you and your son can work with. Straight A's are great! That shows some commitment in at least one part of his life.
Also, the tone of your post is a bit more positive, I am feeling that you are hopeful, an emotion that has been missing at times.
I am so hopeful that he can find a normal in his life, one that can fit in with your family.
Many hugs, Blue!
Bluemountains