I think that I was issues facing that I had no control over how my relationship was falling aprt I felt that I was doing everything possible that could have been done while I was doing that I just never realized that I was attempting to control my spouse so I can control the situation and I'm finding out that it was a bad move for me.. I like harmony in my life... I keep harmony by controlling certain situations that I deem out of control problem is I'm finding that every situation regardless of the magnitude is out of control therefore in my maleness we try to fix everything even though the other people would rather have someone that would just listen without any suggestions ...

Learning things the hard way