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Originally Posted by H3rmit
Thanks for reply, Hellion. I don't have a problem with factual or task-oriented stuff with people, or asking for help/directions/pencil in a situation where it's reasonable they should help me, like if it's their job or whatever. A thing I find that works is start with, "Excuse me . . ." Of course the casual way between young people would probably be just, "Hey, can I borrow a pencil?" But I tend to be more polite. Probably doesn't look as weird as it used to, because I'm now a lot older than my classmates. (Mature student.)
My problem is with any social niceties. I'm clueless because I can't understand what's important to them and how to accommodate that - and also be myself, of course. Anything social, no go. People who are social seem to talk about nothing that's relevant, and yet they make friends from that. I don't understand. I'm just uncomfortable around people. Social things are not task-oriented, it seems.
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Well this is weird but its like I physically cannot start talking to someone unless I know them at lest somewhat. So I would not be able to say excuse me unless I spent around 10 minutes or longer trying to force myself...but yeah even in grade school this was an issue sometimes I ended up not really eating my lunch because no tables where open and I couldn't go ask to sit with people in elementary school sometimes that was decided for us so it was easier but like in high school I couldn't really go up to a group of kids I don't know and ask to sit with them....and I really didn't know a lot of people since i had no friends and people either ignored my existance or where jerks for the most part.
I am pretty clueless about all that as well...I don't really do small talk because I don't know how to talk about random nonsense that seems to be without a point. I am much better at more meaningful conversations and I can also play along with BS conversations....like me, my dad and my brother tricked my sister by being really convincing that the spanish term for danger I think was actually a small creature and the signs were to indicate to watch out for it. Though actually it was a danger sign in both english and spanish and we had her going but then we all ended up laughing too much so that sort of gave it way we had her convinced for a good 10 minutes though.