Wow! I'm sorry that happened.

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Trauma is a hard thing to define. Mostly things seem like just something we live through & because we aren't effected exactly, but are just around the situation, we just have lived through it. What we don't see much of the time is how much effect the situation actually has on us internally...in our subconscious. Sometimes the trauma can be just the what if we had been........ Or like me.....what if she had enough influence on my mother to make her say that I was being controlling....I would have been arrested........what if she wanted to keep me quite because I had filed a report with APS already.....she could have messed with the car I was driving....or someone could have showed up at the house when I came home & beat me up.....or.......yea, alot of the what if's were based of situations I had seen on TV shows, but who knows WHAT IF??????

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Thanks, that makes sense. There are definitely some "what if's" - what if I was there, what if I did lose someone, what if it happened again...

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I hope this helps you realize that sometimes even though we don't think something has effected us as bad as it has, it really has had more effect on us than we realize.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> It has, thanks again.