Being a husband I can say we are pretty stupid and inconsiderate sometimes. I wouldn't be too hard on him though. Most guys don't really celebrate their birthdays, at least the ones I know. For him a card and some cake was his way of saying I care about you and happy birthday, and he did offer to take you out to dinner, albeit he should have said a movie or something since you already ate. Him feeling guilty about not getting you what you wanted shows it bothers him when your not happy with him. If he didn't care you would have just said be happy with the cake and went back to what he was doing. Instead he went out and tried to find you something. Women are hard to shop for. When I get something for my wife, I spend 3 hours or so in a store looking at everything asking myself will she like this? Eventually I find something and I say I'm 70% sure she will like it, but I don't know. I think next year you will have a present. I hope this helps.