Hmm he said he doesn't like doing stuff for people cause it's too much effort ? Did he even ask how your day was?

I have not dated any men like that, my boyfriend would never do that. And I am hard to shop for, its the effort and thought. It doesn't take a whole lot to make someone feel special.

Does he put effort into the relationship? I find his answer of not likeing doing stuff for people cause it takes effort a huge turn off. Does he like people to do stuff for him? Does he like or want others to make effort?

Lots of guys might do this, but tons don't. I have a feeling it is not just the birthday that is the problem.

I am sorry you ended up having a crappy birthday. It is resonable to expect your partner of all people to show you that you matter to them on your birthday. It's not rocket science and if he can put all that effort into his video game then apparently he has some energy to put some effort into you.

Isn't this the same guy who is hiding your relationship? Can I ask why you are still with him? He certainly doen't seem o be offering you much of anything at all in the relationship.