Hi Annie,

It took me 8 years to get here, and it was rough, still effects me, but it is minimal. Try not to let this stuff bother me, even though I know it will come up again eventually, but I jsut got to deal with it a day at a time.

I know that there is some stuff that I cannot quite remember with things with my ex, and i've written stuff down, and when I come across it again, it is surprising cause I didn't even remember that happening. Then I try and recall it and it just doesn't work. I know that trying to force it isn't going to solve anything, instead it's going to force the memory backwards in your mind, and it will take longer to grab a hold of it again.

So I'm letting them come when they want too, when i'm ready to deal with it, it'll show itself, kinda like a flashback, we get them because it's part of healing, even though it doesn't seem that way.

*hugs*

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

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