My oldest child has attended a small private school that is accredited. Meaning he will receive a diploma upon completion. My son was in class w/ 8 students ranging from ages 13 - 18ish. My son has ADD, some of the other students there had aspurgers, and other learning disabilities and they were able to thrive because of the small class size. Social interaction was not such a big deal, and bullying was not an issue there. My son now does home school and loves it. (many aspurgers kids do)

My middle child has aspurgers. He will go to high school next year. If it is not sucessful the will be going to the small private school. It was $250 a month tuition by the way. So it was not terribly expensive. We have tought my son key phrases. He has learned them and repeats them when he doesn't know what to do. We are just now starting on the testing threw the school and seeing what they can do.

His best phrases are:
"May I get a drink of water" that means I'm gonna lose control and cry, or it is to loud

"Can I dust the erasers" that means there is to much chaos (he needs to be given a break and give the teacher time to get the class under control)

"I need to take this to the office" Means I need to go to the bathroom. He folds a piece of paper into a letter size and asks or holds it up. He is embarassed about bathroom things.

We came up w/ these ourselves w/ the suggestion from his T. Maybe you guys could come up w/ something similar. Maybe you already have something like that in place and this will help someone else.

Good luck. Let me know if I can be of any assistance.