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Old Feb 09, 2013, 10:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Rose76 View Post
Lately, I'm even resorting to thanking people for their bright ideas, as I disengage from the back-and-forth that I might otherwise have gotten sucked into . . . just to feel denigrated.

We want so much to be validated, and sometimes it's just not there.
I've been thinking about doing the same thing, Rose. Good idea for me right now. I will just say thanks. I was at an alanon meeting the other night and some well-meaning ppl gave me advice. I just said, "I will consider what you said." and kept my voice *way down*.

No one deserves to feel bad.

Carol
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