If you already feel that you don't love her as more than a friend then mayby it's the best thing to bail.... I'm not good on the marriage advice, I'm still in my twenties, but what I have learned is this... make a choice, any choice. Don't worry about the wrong or right choice, weigh your options, pro's and cons and go for it. (still without the other women) Hanging around in limbo is what gets people down, they are so afraid of making the wrong choices that they do not choose at all! If you make the wrong choice, you can worry about it later, at least then you will have the certainty of what was the right choice!!! Then you can focus on correcting your mistake, but not choosing hurts more people and you are just drowning yourself.... Your marriage counsellor didn't make the law, it's good to listen to his advice, but you don't always have to follow it.

Make the choice and then go from there...