Wow, I can't believe how many replies this post has gotten! I guess it really is very common for survivors of abuse to deny and minimize their abuse. I had always heard that, being a psych major, but I guess I didn't understand until recently just how much I have done that! I've thought about what was big stuff and what was little stuff, too. To be honest, the emotional abuse I suffered was harder on me than getting hit ever was. And I think most people would consider getting hit "big stuff" and emotional abuse "little stuff," but you know, I really think emotional abuse leaves a devastating mark. I'm back to accepting that I was abused now. It helped me a lot to hear all of everybody's stories on here confirming that denial and minimizing is something that a lot of us do. I hope I don't ever go back to minimizing my own abuse. It just makes everything feel so much worse. Thank you and hugs to everybody who's been posting in response!!!!

SweetCrusader

"Blessed be the cracked, for they let in the light"
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