I agree that intense anger not handled with efficiently can just build up and build up and cause so many problems - psychosomatic ills, bitterness and hostility, misplaced irritation, etc. etc. It's important to learn how to deal with intense anger more effectively. Here are some ideas my counselor suggested to me since I've gone through the exact same thing!

1. Take a long walk with music on, even aggressive music, to feel like you can relate to the music playing and storm out your frustration with a walk and jog. Then, put on some relaxing music and bring yourself down from it. If you don't like rock music, just play the relaxing music first. Personally I always feel better listening to Dope and Marilyn Manson [LOL] because I feel they're singing about my angry emotions in some of their songs. But then a more calm song will bring me down from it and help mellow me out. Combined w/ the phys. activity it helps.

2. Punch a pillow, or throw it around [safely!]. Way better than punching hard objects like walls and slamming doors.

3. Learn deep breathing. It might seem dumb or cliche but man, you'd be surprised how awesomely effective being able to find your center, relax and feel your own breath to become calm again.

4. If all else fails, you might want to consult therapy. It's not a bad idea and doesn't speak poorly of you. You might just need some other therapy techniques or support to help quell and deal with the anger.

Kudos to recognizing you should learn how to deal more effectively with your anger especially for your daughter. I wish my mom had been that way. It shows how considerate and good hearted you are! Good luck.