Definitely sounds like something is going on. Is your counselor trained in mental disorders? You need to see a therapist with such training to get an accurate diagnosis. I am especially concerned about the physical violence. I'm not sure that's typical of bipolar disorder. I am not qualified to diagnose, but if you do have bipolar disoder, there might be some borderline personality issues there, too. (Fairly common combination). Just a guess, though. But you do need to seriously address what's going on since it's affecting your relationships negatively. Okay?