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Originally Posted by perfectlyflawed
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This is so true for me. I use to and still am sometimes, blunt with a practical answer not understanding that the person I am talking to is wanting a more in depth and insightful conversation or answer. They like to see their emotion and expression of it seen and reciprocated. Now I train myself to look at their facial expressions, read their body language during our exchange of words. I have to make sure I listen close to the change in pitch in their voice and learn their vernacular so I do not offend.
This is so exhausting trying to be social and forcing yourself to learn this stuff. It doesn't come easy and for an introvert + (insert MI) it sucks. I just want to be me and give a logical answer without jumping ten different hurdles of emotional messages that are covert and evasive but I am supposed to know them so I can communicate one or two sentences of understanding.
Another obstacle course for me is the one where you are asked how they should fix a problem and the sulking when you give them the most "logical" answer at trouble shooting and you have to back track to see where their feelings were hurt and what they don't really want.
Maybe I'm from another planet because trying to communicate with others is like visiting strange countries.
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you are describing how i feel
for most of the time i am like second late decoding their emotions... i am reading their emotions using body language,facial expressions,right... but still it is like watching tv... now he is sad/annoyed what the hell i am supposed to do? to help or to sympathize? exactly what should i say,tell him everything will be ok or blame someone else? its exactly like tv,just paused tv.... i have watched that whole episode upto this,i understand emotions, story-line and i am supposed to write remaining dialogues and direct rest of the episode !!!!!!!