Mystery solved!? Please don't feel bad. I acted this way for years and nobody told me til it was too late, or I just couldn't hear it? I think it's awesome that you've been able to take it in. Plus just your original story of whether or not to confront, moved me to engage more, as people here were telling you that they would speak up. So I did, and talked about THAT with my T. So it was a whole ripple effect! And makes it something I have to look at in my life more. Just wow. Best birthday present ever. Thanks.