I also am not a person that can say no to alot of things.I had to make a decision if i was going to watch 2 of the neighbors kids without pay, when the mom, who i hardly knew, asked me to, i said no but felt bad about it, when i really realized, i was in no position because of my meds and mental problems, that i didn't have to do it without the guilt it left in me as she turned out to be a heroin addict, and alcholic. i felt so bad because i could not help her, but i told myself it wasn't my responsibility, but i still felt bad for years until i came across this post and was able to put it in words.