Can you ask your doctor for help? I would tell your husband of your anger, tell him you're angry about his behavior and his not getting help and that you want him to see a/your doctor. Let him know you are concerned too and love him but that his failure to do anything about his condition is also making you angry because it makes you feel helpless and you won't tolerate that. Point out that you're not well too and it's not fair for him not to "help" you and himself by seeing a doctor. Reassure him you have no plans to leave him at the moment but feel stuck and won't put up with his behavior forever. Emphasize the difference between "him" and his behavior and that you love him but not his behavior and he'll have to change that if you're to stay.