Well now I am trying to build a bridge. The girl and I had a pretty good conversation the day after he asked her father's blessing for the marriage. Since then he's asked if she's contacted me (actually he's asked his father and all of his siblings as well). The answer is no she has not. I'm not going to lie to him but I'm not going to make this any harder on him than it has to be. He loves his family dearly and wants her to be a part of our lives. I told him that I haven't gotten a hold of her either, that the phone works both ways. That we both need a minute to digest what is going on. She'll contact one of us again when she's ready.

He's been asking all of his friends what my reation was when they asked about the upcoming marriage. I told him flat out that its the same as the one I gave him when he called, I wish they'd wait but I only want him to be happy, if he's happy I'm happy. He says that's no answer but it's the only one I have for him