My husband rarely comes to bed with me and it has started causing a real wedge in our relationship. It's not so much his staying up later....it's I'll wake up 3-4 hours later and he's still not there, and then I wake up early to get my son off to school and to work and he sleeps until almost noon. It affects not only our sleeping hours but our waking hours as well...and there's no reason it needs to be this way, HE'S NOT WORKING!