Thanks for being supportive, (((all))). I am not in a good place at the moment but am not able to verbalise it, and I don't want to solicit support when there are others who need and deserve it much more than I do.

mu_e, you really are doing too much. Is there some kind of coordinator/work administrator at the hospital you could discuss with about how the nurses don't rinse your mother's hair, for instance? You're making the right call on not letting them relase her until she can be alone. I hope you find a job soon, too - that would probably remove a lot of stress.