So here's what I'm trying to say. When you're laying on your death bed are those chores going to comfort you, or the memories of just spending time with your wife, the person you chose to spend your life with going to comfort you? I have OCD, I understand that some of the things I have to do before I rest control me, I do not control them. Medication has helped, but now every thing in my life is broken down into a simple question: "Will this be important to me in a year?" Live each day as if it were your last. If this was your last day on earth, which would make a difference? Getting your chores done or spending time with your wife?