Scorpio, I see no one else has said this so I will. congratulations on finding a friend at the very least that you can be with. I hope it is possible you can have more too.

With that said, I will say adamantly, if you want this to work out, I stand with itsjustme's thought. That is an extremely good idea. Since you both probably already know that you need counseling and have potentially problematic challenges with relationships, I think counseling together would be a really good idea! Give yourselves every chance for this to work.

Take it slow as you can. mara is right in that we can fall madly in love and that many times that fire turns into an ice storm that causes us to repel the new lover... since you're both bpd, you'll have to consider that from both sides. Please do not forget this. Take it slow, as impossible as that may sound.

You can do this. It is a can of worms but dude, just get the book "how to eat fried worms" and follow it's instructions and you'll be fine (jk)

Again grats on the new relationship. This can be a good thing.

*hugs*
~S4