Therapy isn't for everyone. You certainly have the right to live your life as you want. Without talking it over with someone, with strangers really. When you look at it that way, it's a little weird. You usually have to choose between your current way of doing things, and at least looking at them differently. Making small steps to change things, which turn into bigger steps. And staying where you are while you are in therapy, with no changes, can cause conflict and force you to stay the same to keep the peace. It can be very scary to change. And it can be hard to understand all this. If you're not there, then you're just not there. It's not a race.