unfortunately wherever you go many people dont actually listen to what you say, they are too busy rehersing in their head what tey are going to say next, and on a site like this its prob more common as we are important to ourselves, and tend to push our own problems out there instead of listening and probably 99% dont even realise they r doing it. sharing experiences as a response to afirmm that you are understood good be also a reason it happes, i.e yeah dude this hapend to me and i..blah blah, and they could just be trying to say they understand where you are coming from. And as we are all the centre of our individual universes its not surprising we focus on ourselves :P