We also have the night owl/morning person issue in our marriage. My husband is the morning person, and I'm the night owl. We generally go to bed together, though. But luckily, I was blessed with a heavy sleeper, so I can sit with the light on and read or crochet or what have you until I'm tired. Then in the morning, he stays in bed with me, playing games on his phone until he eventually coaxes me awake with breakfast (yes, I'm very spoiled, but bringing me breakfast in bed is a surefire way of getting me to wake up and not be grumpy.. most of the time And on the rare occasions I am awake before him, I return the favor and bring him breakfast).

We both try to take care of the things that have to be done before we go to bed. We don't have a hard and fast rule for who does what, but it all gets done. Maybe not perfectly, but live-ably.

The rare occasions we don't go to bed together is usually because my husband fell asleep on the couch while watching TV or something. And since he's a heavy sleeper, I generally just leave him (rather than frustrate myself trying to wake him up), and in the middle of the night he comes to find me.

Basically, I feel for you. And maybe because we're still newlyweds and haven't been living together that long, all of this is still fresh and new for us, so the little things like going to bed together still come easily. Or maybe my husband just isn't quite as much of a morning person as your wife is, and that just makes things a little easier, too.