I hope you get this resolved and stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be abused, whether he realizes or not you deserve to be treated with respect and valued as a person. I had a friend that dated another friend. He was real controlling and verbally abusive. It made my others friends life miserable for several months before she left him. Don't let his problems wreck your life. Be strong and stand up for yourself. You deserve to do what you want and not cater to his will.