It is hard to know what the answer to your dilemma should be. From my vantage point, I guess I would see where counseling goes and not make any rash decisions. Other people including our husbands can only give us what they have, but they cannot solve our problems as much as we might like them to do so.

It is probably best to avoid any rash decisions, without counseling and support. If your husband is sincere about trying to do better, perhaps you might want to give him a chance. If he is open, give him specific concrete suggestions as to what you want. I get the impression we females are very mysterious from a male perspective even when it does not seem that way to us.