See now, you are listening to your mom more than your therapist! Who is the expert? And as you say, who caused your identity issue to begin with?

What is identity? Well, actually when people are asked, "Who are you?" they usually begin with describing the roles they play, and often that begins with what job they hold. But even without a job right now, identity also ties into your hobbies and interests, other roles you play, what you value in life, what your beliefs are. These are created by choices YOU make.

As you say, you have basically been a puppet for your parents, and they have played a role in your being slow about becoming independent and being your own person. (I know how that is. My parents were a lot like that, too.)

It might be hard, but try to start being your own person. You ARE an adult now and you can lead your own life and make your own choices. You don't have to always please your parents. (On the other hand, don't rebel against them for the sake of rebelling.) I hope this helps some!

Yes, some people do get wrapped up in money. I encourage you to try to find other "interests" as well.