Thank you, Hamster-bamster. It's nice to have a "straight" person go to bat for us "homo-sexuals". Nobody talks about the trysexuals though....the ones that try anything? Oh well.
As far as the legal issue that is rolling around here, I am not sure why the person that represented the OP is not termed "lawyer", although I don't know what country the OP lives in. Usually RAPE=RAPE. Maybe because it happened twice ( with the same BF), then the thoughts of pressing charges changed. It's all very confusing .Good luck to the OP. You are young and wonderful and you have plenty of time to figure things out. Breathe. No one is moving to Mars. It's OK.