Well...he focuses on the the tip of the nipple (very lightly at first, kind of a tease). Even though he's only working on one, both nipples become hard and he slowly sucks a little harder. One hand holds onto the breast that he's working on, and the other hand holds onto me tightly. Pulling me towards him ~ closer and closer. What began as a gentle, intimate kiss quickly becomes a passionate experience between us. My bf is very good at picking up on signals that my body sends him, without any thought from me.

He can feel my body relax in his arms; muscle spasms when I'm close to orgasm; he can change his rate of speed when he feels my body tense up & senses that I'm not quite ready to go that fast. My bf isn't Superman, but he gets his enjoyment of sex by making me enjoy the experience. He is a quad, and therefore cannot feel anything from his chest down. The experience is emotional for him & he can go at whatever rate of speed I'm comfortable with. That probably makes a big difference between him and "healthy" guys. Perhaps it is a technique that men can still work towards though. It sure is worth a shot!

Best wishes!