I've been married close to a quarter-century. For the first 15 years or so, we also usually went to bed together. She was more tolerant of going to bed later and I was more likely to go to bed with her in hopes of getting a nice "sleeping pill".

Now, 3 kids and about a gazillion gallons of water under the bridge later and it's a little tougher. Life has a way of making itself more complex. My struggles lately have been to try to simplify things again as much as possible as we have leveled out and are taking the turn to the downhill side of things.