Koko, I used to have a friend who was exactly like your family. At first it was flattering to have her "copy" me but it soon became very tiring. I felt like I was responsible for 2 people and my ego was just not strong enough. There were times I even frankly told her that I did not want to be friends with her anymore and she just didn't get it.

I'm sorry to have to tell you that the only way to deal with this type of situation is to remove yourself. I know it is hard with family but for your own sanity you have to minimize the amount of time you spend with them. And, don't tell them anything about what you are doing or thinking. Good luck.