Clinte, the spiritual exercises of Ignatious Loyola have been a wonderful help for me
in listening to my thoughts and trying to keep things calm inside. Loyola talks about
the two emotions of "desolation" and "consolation" and how we are directing our
thinking. It's all and "inside job" that is done to determine feeling tone.

I recommend it as a way to control emotions rather than acting out. It's hard to
do, but worth it for me because it worked.

They're available online for copying to your files if you wish to refer to Loyola's
way of handling his feelings.