This might sound a little odd - my hubs and I rarely sleep in the same bed. It was a source of confusion for me for a time; caused an increase in self-esteem issues for me...thought he wasn't attracted to me...made me depressed...yadda yadda yadda. We've talked about it and I get it now. Our bed isn't the most supportive for him and he finds that he sleeps better on the couch. He also works from home and sometimes is up much later than I am so he just crashes out there. I sometimes have to move to the couch myself when he falls asleep in bed with me because he tends to snore right after he's fallen asleep. I just go to the couch, try to pass out and then inevitably I wake up and return to our bed. I suppose deep down, it still sort of bothers me. I try not to let it do so, because I enjoy having a full night's sleep - it happens too rarely - and I can't have it both ways.

That said, I can usually tell when he's in the mood for sex because he shows up more often when that happens.