Have you spoken with your wife about this? It took my husband a while (and a conversation from my Dr.) to understand that I needed to have certain things done before I could rest. That meant that he had to pitch in and help with the chores. He could care less if there are dishes in the sink, towels all over the bathroom floor etc.

I'm not trying to belittle you in any way, but there are simpleish solutions. Load the washer but don't turn it on until morning. Or turn it on as you're eating dinner so that it'll be in the dryer while you're sleeping. Dinner isn't over until the left-overs are put away. I relaxed over the years, the dishes don't have to be washed, but they have to be rinsed and stacked neatly or put in the dishwasher. The kids can help out here. My three year old granddaughter knows at Grammy's house when dinner is over the dishes go in the sink (she would try to put them directly in the dishwasher, since the child does not eat, the food left on her plate created some issues.) If you don't want to crate you're dog, put some wee pads down. WE make things more complicated than they have to be.