You might want to go to chat:

Tell people you're new and you need someone to talk to
Define what you need, just listen, advice, conversation
Let them know what you need to talk about, be specific, if you don't want small talk then be very upfront about it and be concise
And sometime it is asking too much, you are asking people to listen to your pain, your raw and painful wounds. Wow that is a lot to ask.
Be a good listener too, they may tell a story to let you know they understand. It's a 2 way street.