I had past abusive relationships as-well, even one where the guy raped me. He knows of these things and got mad at me when I flinched because I thought he was going to hit me, he tok it as offense that I instantly thought he would start abusing me. He got into the habit where he kissed me after I flinched...I got comfortable knowing he wouldn't hurt me, I was glad I was in a relationship I could be proud of then he started making all the chores my responsibility then started humiliating me in-front of his friends and family to verbal/mental abuse to "accidentally hitting me in the arm when he meant to grab me"...