I make you uncomfortable, don't I -- the expression of my own fears about these people gets transmitted to you, and you think I must have "started this thread only to start an argument". You are right about me being "already on the defensive before anyone responded to the first post" -- I thought that was pretty clear. But what is the meaning of this? My own fears of the people that do not simply disagree with me, but how they disagree. The form in which these people express their ideas expresses their own fears, but fears whose sources they do not recognize -- and their fear gets transmitted to me. And it is hard for me, when made afraid, to cope with, to recognize the sources of their and my own fears, and manage them in any healing way.

I think I at least recognize some of what is happening; I do not think the people I am talking about are nearly as close to being consciously aware of the sources and meanings of their fears as I am. If I may express some praise of myself!