Rubylizard, there's an interesting phohia site that I love, Panphobia and it has all sorts of resources. See if it can give you any comfort? It has book and Webpage references, etc.

http://www.panphobia.com/disease/emetophobia.htm

I had a girlfriend with your fear but not quite so serious I don't think. But it ended up being part of an OCD package which got better after she changed her life around a bit, found her future husband and changed her outlook and interests, etc. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time and running into people you don't feel can help. I hope you come up with some way to get help.