OMG, yes. We talk about it ALL THE TIME. She REALLY, REALLY wants me to come to bed with her and I want that too but eventually she just says, "I'm too tired. I have to go to bed" or she just sneaks away for a "5 minute rest" under the blankets, in bed, in her pajamas.

She's got issues and I know that. I guess this is just another manifestation of them. I don't want to make a big deal of this stuff while she's going through so many other things. So, I look for the little things to help. Band-aids on the hole in my chest to keep things under control, if possible. I think I will at least start insisting on cleanup immediately after dinner. She likes to chill and cuddle with a full belly after dinner (who doesn't) but we have to make compromises, right?