Spoke to my ex yesterday about the coming date - in March. She was completely oblivious to the fact that the end of our marriage would be official soon. O.O

Anyway with all the stuff going on she's apparently come to the realization that she isn't at a point where she can take care of the kids much. our conversation was not about this but I felt it was time I brought it up with her. She actually was the one that brought up that we can work things out ourselves. (I had told her this months ago but she was adamant that we needed lawyers to do this for us) Well I agreed and proceeded to tell her what I expect. I told her that I would like to be the primary care or responsible parent in the divorce and added that she would have full access too them and open visitation as long as she gave notice reasonably. Funny thing was she intially just said "that's fine" No argument, no confrontation. She did say at one point, "well we should have a schedule" but I added "well I don't want to put pressure on you to have to see them on x date etc. with your life as erratic as it is right now it would be easier on you to just have an open visitation with them where you could see them when it's best for you." She did agree to that.

Things are looking up. Just thought I'd share.