Have you told him that.... you can catch more flies with honey? And no matter if you knew he wasn't into comforting or not when you married him, he said the whole for better or worse thing. He can bite the bullet and go through the motions if it will help you, after all you are the one who actually GAVE birth.... ugg , non supportive spouses really get my goat. ok..... I'm breathing..... I think both messes are equally important and ultimately tied together.