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I was separated from my husband 10 years ago, and after 5 years divorced. I had an affair and as such was the perpetrator of the breakup. I had an affair with a man who is 12 years younger than myself and who had also suffered a nervous breakdown after the death of both his parents. The man lived next door to me and my family and we were witness to some strange behavior prior to his breakdown. I have two daughters who were aware and witnessed some of this behavior. I am still with this man, we live together. When the marriage broke down between my then husband and me my daughters took it all very badly. My husband behaved in a way that caused my daughters to have to look after him. They refused to speak to me and the man. Eventually I made up with my daughters but then fell into a way of life that meant I met them on my own, never with my new partner and any family occasions that arose would mean that usually my partner would be left out, or he would attend and my daughters would not. All of this has been a huge strain on us all including members of my family who felt in the middle. My ex husband has a new partner and she is accepted by my daughters but they still refuse to have anything to do with my new partner and have never visited me at home.
The reason I am writing this is that I feel that it is time my daughters changed their behavior as I believe after 10 years that it is detrimental to them as grown up women. I feel it is embarrassing for them that they are unable to forgive this man and also me. If they have children they say that they will not be allowed to come to my home. Is anyone THAT bad??
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